Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy

Couples therapy can help you and your partner express needs, worries or conflicts in a neutral and comfortable setting. Many couple’s issues are rooted in poor communication or strained connection, which often leads to marital conflict, sexual issues, infidelity or emotional withdrawal.

  • Are you feeling distant or avoiding each other?
  • Do you feel like roommates? Is affection missing?
  • Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells?
  • Are you tired of having the same fight?
  • Have you contemplated divorce or separation?
  • Has an affair broken trust in the relationship?
  • Do you need to work on the quality or frequency of sex?
  • Do you feel like your partner doesn’t hear you?

Some issues that bring couples to therapy are, but aren’t limited to: Gambling, Pornography, Working too much, Working/Living between provinces, Substance overuse, Stressors such as a busy family life and parenting issues, Infidelity, LGBTQ2+ issues, Cultural or religious issues, Polyamory, Intimacy & Sexual issues, Anger, Domestic Violence Therapy can help! It is 100% possible to go from feeling hopeless in your relationship to feeling hopeful and connected. Therapy can help you to identify your relationship patterns, learn communication skills to help you work through conflict in constructive ways, to rebuild trust, friendship and intimacy in your relationship.

Working with Relationship Therapist-Michelle

*Couples therapy and individual therapy options are available* My passion is relationship therapy. I work with couples to help rebuild connection, repair conflict, recover from an affair, improve communication, increase intimacy and quality of sex, and to enhance what’s already working well. Relationship therapy isn’t only for couples, it can also be useful for individuals whose partners are not yet ready to come to therapy. It is possible for individuals to learn strategies and tools to help them deal with conflict, listen to their partner while maintaining personal boundaries, and negotiate their needs in the relationship so they can feel connected and fulfilled again as a couple. Relationship therapy can be helpful for those who are seeking a partner, currently dating, recently out of a relationship or looking for some insight into their relationship. Relationship therapy can be helpful to those who might be struggling with affection, communication, and fears of rejection or abandonment. Therapy can help individuals discover things about themselves that might contribute to negative romantic patterns and help them to better understand themselves within a romantic relationship. Couples Therapy I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method and Narrative Therapy approaches in my relationship work with individuals and couples. I work with couples to help each partner feel better understood, strengthen respect, learn to communicate more effectively and ask for what each partner needs. I assess the relationship, past and present and gain new understanding and develop a path for moving forward including:

  1. Identifying conflict patterns (the same fight over and over)
  2. Identifying triggers and raw spots
  3. Improving how accessible, responsive and engaged partners are
  4. Repairing past hurts
  5. Restoring trust and stability
  6. Improving intimacy and communication
  7. Getting back to a vibrant, passionate, fun commitment to each other

Relationship Therapy Bundles

Relationship therapy sessions are subject to the regular rates. Therapy bundles are another option that many couples have chosen.

*Therapy bundles are not recommended for couples who have experienced recent infidelity or where therapy is contraindicated*

The Bundles include research-based assessments which help to provide a clear insight into the areas that may require some attention as well as areas of strength. The assessments provide a path for us to tailor the counselling sessions around the needs of each partner and the needs of the relationship and then choosing evidence-based interventions that meet those needs. Session Topics in the Bundles May Include:

  • Understanding Your Needs and Your Partner’s Needs
  • Responding to Bids for Affection
  • Listening Well
  • Creating a Shared Meaning
  • Understanding Conflict Patterns
  • Antidotes to Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt & Stonewalling
  • Really Knowing our Partner
  • Communication Tools
  • Aftermath of a Fight
  • Sex, Intimacy, Playfulness
  • Relaxation
  • Fondness & Admiration
  • Small Things Often

Premarital Counselling Bundle

  • Oral Couples Relational Assessment
  • Oral Individual Relational Assessment
  • Gottman Online Relationship Assessment
  • Relationship Evaluation
  • Tailored Therapy Plan
  • Resources (emailed in between sessions)
  • 8 counselling sessions 50 mins in length

Relationship Check Up Bundle 

  • Oral Couples Relational Assessment
  • Gottman Online Relationship Assessment
  • Relationship Evaluation
  • Tailored Therapy Plan
  • Resources (emailed in between sessions)
  • 4 counselling sessions 50 mins in length

Relationship Enrichment Bundle 

  • Oral Couples Relational Assessment
  • Oral Individual Relational Assessment
  • Gottman Online Relationship Assessment
  • Relationship Evaluation
  • Tailored Therapy Plan
  • Resources (emailed in between sessions)
  • 8 counselling sessions 50 mins in length