Registered Counselling Therapist, MA, CCC, RCT-C
I’d like to take this space to introduce myself and give you an idea of some of my experience, as well, a glimpse into who I am. For myself, whether it be personal or professional, when entering into relationships in my own life, I find it easier to build them when I know a little more about the other person.
I identify as cisgender female; my partner and I have been married for 25 years. Our relationship is wonderfully rewarding, but I wouldn’t be completely honouring our commitment to one another, if I didn’t acknowledge that it has come with a lot of work and many ups and downs!
Together, we have 3 beautiful children, 2 of whom are already adults and I really don’t know when that happened! We have learned so much about ourselves in the process of parenting our children through all of the developmental stages. Notably, we have been through the challenging times of the teenage years and are still in the thick of it with our youngest. You know what they say…what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger!
Personally, starting from a very young age and throughout my life so far, I have experienced multiple losses. These have showed up as complex trauma, serious health issues and multiple deaths of loved ones. These experiences have been life altering; they have changed me at my core.
By dealing with my own ‘stuff’, from a place of responsibility, I have edited and re-authored parts of my life. This self-examination and processing have helped me to move from a place of suffering to a place of healing. I now have clarity on who I am, I am no longer ashamed of the events or the life experiences, instead, I see these as great teachers who have greatly influenced my story, and ultimately, made me who I am today.
While I live joyfully, gratefully and fulfilled, I do realize I am not completely ‘there’. I am, and always will be, a work in progress, and life will always be hard, at least part of the time. My outlook is to expect life to be 50/50, half of the time it will be good or great and half of the time not so good and really hard.
I believe when we share our experiences, we share our humanness and give others permission to do the same. Part of the counsellor’s creed says ‘I can only take you (my client) as far as I have been willing to go in my own life’. As your tour guide in our therapeutic relationship, I wholeheartedly believe this and have fully committed to myself and to you (my client) to continue to go to places within myself that are uncomfortable, but are where the growth and magic happens.
Professionally, I have worked on the front lines in Social Services from the time I completed my first undergrad degree, for about 15 years. I worked with individuals and families in Child Protection Services and Income Support Services in the province of Ontario.
Still within Social Services, I moved into the space of Policy, Training and Education for a couple of years. When I left the Social Service sector, I continued in the area of Adult Education in the Business sector, this took the form of coaching and leadership development. I still do some of this today.
I have always been interested in business. I am one of those people who is an entrepreneur at the core. About 10 years ago I started my own business, a part-time side hustle which was fun, exciting, a tonne of work and really successful! I sold it when my partner and I decided to move into business together, something we still have and do together today.
In 2017, I returned to school again—I am a self-professed life time learner—to work on my Masters of Arts in Counselling Psychology Degree. I graduated mid December 2019 and in January 2020, I launched my private practice, this was a dream come true for me! I love contributing, adding value and helping people!
I opened the doors to ML Family Counselling one week before COVID arrived in our country (50/50 rule: life is sometimes hard) which came with its own challenges, such as learning how to provide service to clients virtually! Now, that we are back and fully open again, seeing clients in-person as well as by phone and video which has allowed us to expand our practice and our reach to clients throughout Canada. In November, ML Family Counselling expanded and became a clinic, welcoming on 2 more counselling therapists! We are 3 in our clinic who offer slightly different areas of focus in our own practices.
I use a Narrative Therapy approach in working with individuals, my interest is primarily working with those who have experienced grief, loss and trauma.
I use an Attachment-Based, Emotion Focused Therapy and Gottman Method Therapy in my relationship work. I am passionate about helping couples to understand and communicate their own feelings, needs, desires and those of their partner. Often couples seek counselling when they are stuck in having the same fight over and over again. We work together to recognize the patterns, triggers and raw spots in their relationship. We move towards creating a new relationship dance so partners are not dancing on each others’ toes, but rather more in sync and harmoniously with one another.
When you’re ready, I invite you to reach out and connect to see if we’d be a good fit to work together.
Take good care,
Registered Counselling Therapist Candidate, Nova Scotia College of Counselling Therapists RCT-C20-003
Psychotherapist, Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association CCC 10002953